Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Kindle Your Own Flame!

"Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." -- Terry Pratchett

What is it about a roaring fire that captures our attention and draws us to it? As a young teenager, I went on several camping trips with our next-door neighbor. I remember walking around the campground at night and seeing all of the different campfires and the groups of people that surrounded them. I also remember thinking how some of these fires were big and impressive while others were small, and accept for the faint light, barely noticeable. There was also a big difference in the energy and enthusiasm of the people who surrounded the fire pits --- and it seemed to be in direct correlation to the size of the flames and the heat they generated.

Those who surrounded the large fires laughed harder, talked louder and in many cases were on their feet and actively engaged with one another. On the other hand, those who sat around the small fires were generally much quieter and even somewhat subdued -- and they were always far less in number. If I watched long enough, I would notice how they sometimes sat slumped and motionless with their eyes fixed on the fire but seemingly seeing something entirely different. What were they thinking about? Past? Present? Future? Was the fire slowly dying by design or had they become so distracted in their trance-like stares they simply didn't notice the flames were going out. Were they, in their obvious comfort, waiting for someone else to get up and make something happen? I know I never had a desire to hang around and find out.

Just down the way, there was excitement that matched the intensity of the rising flames. Greater numbers brought greater energy, noticeable excitement, and even shared contribution. Looking around, several people had pieces of wood in their hand and stood ready to do what they could to keep the fire burning. Others shouted out encouragement or helped select the logs and timbers. These are the people that had learned what it takes to kindle a big fire.

It's hard to miss a fire like that -- and it's hard not to gravitate in that direction to see what's going and how we can be part of it. On any given night, there are dozens or even hundreds of fires burning across the campground. Yet, only a handful are memorable, irresistible, and maybe even unforgettable.

I think the same holds true across the business landscape. On any given day, there are dozens or even hundreds of businesses operating within our market. But, how many of them are really drawing attention to themselves and creating a burning desire for others to join them as customers -- or to match their intensity as affiliates, partners, or even competitors? How many stand out so brightly that we can't help but notice them and find ourselves gravitating toward them to see what the excitement is all about?

The real question is how many of us own or strategically work for such a business? Why not? To some degree we're all tending the embers of our daily business or occupational existence. Is our campfire drawing the people we want to gather around it and even help us fan the flames to reach higher levels of intensity? Why not? Why should we merely sit and stare at what we've built while we think about the glory days of the past, the concerns of the present, or the uncertainty of the future? Do we want a fire that gets the job done or one that lights the way for ourselves and the others who will inevitably find it?

Unless we plan to fold our tent and break camp, we'll need to build tomorrow's fire. What kind of a fire will it be? Who will help you build it? Who will you invite to watch it burn?

About the Author: Terry Crouson is the Owner and Head Coach at Silver Coach Solutions, LLC and is currently doing business as The Growth Coach of West Metro Detroit. He is dedicated to helping business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, sales professionals, and self-employed professionals find their way by finding their why. He is a highly respected business coach, speaker, facilitator, and community builder. Terry is certified in the Strategic Mindset Process, and is also a DISC Certified Behavioral Consultant.

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Do You Need to Change the Station?



Question: Are people tuning you in, or tuning you out?

When it comes to the pursuit of success, it appears far too many people are operating on the same frequency -- and as a result, it doesn't take long for others to tune out. I'm talking about that same old, over-exposed station, WIIFM -- What's In It For Me? If you listen closely, there's only one song, and it plays over, and over, and over again. It's an annoying little tune called Gimme, Gimme, Gimmie. In fact if you've been to a recent networking event or other business gathering, you've probably heard several versions -- from several different "artists". Are you one of those artists? Maybe it's time to turn the dial and sing a different song.

Adding new customers is critical to the growth of a small business, and it's something we all need to concentrate on. However, there is a time and there is a way to do it. The first time we meet a person is rarely the time and overwhelming that person with our qualifying questions or worse yet, our product puke-out, is definitely not the way.

Now, I don't want to be crass or sound overly glib about this, but I think we need to take a serious look at ourselves and how we relate to others in the marketplace. Generally, we'll earn a reputation for being either a giver or a taker -- or we're going to be known for some serious leanings, one way or another. The problem is, we have no real trouble spotting that taker mentality in others. Seeing it in ourselves? Now that's a different story. If we did, we wouldn't do it -- period.

I love the work of Bob Burg and John David Mann in their signature offering, The Go-Giver. Have you read it? Have you made giving first a business strategy and not just an abstract discussion? If not, you might be stuck on that same old station and you might be humming that same old tune. Make a move. Change the station. Listen to others and find a way to give and to serve before seeking to get something for yourself.

Once you learn the rhythm and the lyrics, you'll be singing a much happier song -- and the number of requests you receive will let you know you have a hit. Tune it in and turn it up!

About the Author: Terry Crouson is the Owner and Head Coach at Silver Coach Solutions, LLC and is currently doing business as The Growth Coach of West Metro Detroit. He is dedicated to helping business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, sales professionals, and self-employed professionals find their way by finding their why. He is a highly respected business coach, speaker, facilitator, and community builder. Terry is certified in the Strategic Mindset Process, and is also a DISC Certified Behavioral Consultant.

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Is Our Pursuit of Perfection Slowing Our Progress?


When I picked up Carol Dweck's book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, I was excited to dive in and validate one of my fundamental beliefs -- the presence of a "growth mindset". After all, I am in the coaching business, so if anyone had a growth mindset, it would surely be me -- right? I mean, c'mon, the word "growth" is in the name of my business! There's no way I could be one of those "fixed mindset" folks. Then, right there on page 24 came an interesting question: "When do you feel smart: When you're flawless, or when you're learning?"

Hmm, I thought. I do consider myself to be a learner and I usually have a desire to continue learning. And I desperately wanted to say that I felt smartest when I was in the process of learning, but, I knew that my real answer to the question was: When I am flawless. Gulp! Carol went on to propose that people with a fixed mindset would say: "It's when I don't make any mistakes." Check. "When I finish something fast, and it's perfect." Check. "When something is easy for me, but other people can't do it." Checkmate!

As much as I wanted to think differently, I think this was a fair assessment of how I seem to go about things. Oh, I know that failure is the path to success. I also know that becoming truly proficient in anything, takes time and a fair amount of -- selective learning, i.e., failure. And while I know this to be true, and strive to help my clients embrace this truth, the expectation I have for myself is admittedly somewhat different. I can't help wondering if I'm not alone in this regard. Is our desire to appear flawless, at least to some degree, in some specific area, slowing or in some cases, stopping our intended progress? Be careful before you answer.

Before picking up Carol Dweck's book, I would have said no. It's not that I've wanted or expected to be perfect or flawless -- at least not consciously. Because, I know it's not possible. But I do have to admit that at some deeper, perhaps subconscious level, I may be allowing that ideal to influence how far I'm willing to go, and how much I'm willing to risk to "feel smart". The question I am now considering is: How many good things have I quit or turned away from in order to risk my feeling of smartness and allow it to be replaced with a less comfortable season of learning? I might ask you that same question.

I'm going to leave this discussion right here and invite you, if you haven't done so, to read Mindset -- The New Psychology of Success. Discover for yourself whether you are operating in a fixed or a growth mindset. By the way, the subtitle is How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential. I believe the operative word is, "learn" -- as in grow, risk, and stretch ourselves past the need to be flawless -- and find the personal freedom to make progress.

Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.

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